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Why can't the man swallow his own seed if the woman does not want to? It would not be homosexual because it is his own, and it would not spill. How can I partake of the spiritual replenishment of the living water without being homosexual?

There is nothing in the Scriptures that prohibits a man from swallowing his own semen if he so chooses. In fact, this is an ideal solution for avoiding the sin of “spilling seed” if the female partner is not willing to swallow, or if the man is masturbating alone. As you point out, there is nothing homosexual about swallowing your own semen because it does not involve having sex with another man. However, if you do choose to swallow your own ejaculate, be careful not to get any on yourself or your clothes. The same requirements regarding semen and cleanliness still apply (Leviticus 15:16-17).


My boyfriend and I drink each other's semen. We don’t have oral sex because we believe it is forbidden by the scripture. We believe that it is the way God intended us to be - just like David and Jonathan.

You cite the Biblical story of David and Jonathan, which describes a close spiritual relationship between two men - ”the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” (1 Samuel 18:1) Jonathan and David loved each other deeply, and even wore the same clothes (“And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle. [1 Samuel 18:1]). However, the Bible doesn’t say anything about them having sex or swallowing each other’s semen. You and your friend would be better off each drinking your own semen, as described above. If you want to do it together, that’s probably OK, as long as you don’t touch each other.


This is complete blasphemy. You must take this down. To suggest that the Lord Jesus Christ propositioned a woman for a blowjob is preposterous. You are sinning against God by twisting the words of His son. You need to take this down, for your own good.

We did not mean to suggest that Jesus was propositioning the woman at the well or asked her to give him a blowjob. Of course not! Jesus would never do that. In fact, he refuses to give her the “living water” himself. When she asks him to give her the living water (semen), Christ tells the woman to get her husband. This is so he (Christ) could instruct her on how to give a blowjob to her husband and receive the living water from her husband. Thank you for your concern, and we hope this clarifies matters.


You f*****g idiots. If you did any research at all, you'd understand the true meaning of the texts you cite. Christ's "living water" was not referring to semen, you f*****g a**holes. He was referring to spiritual enlightenment. When one learns how to learn, there are no limits to your future knowledge. That’s what he meant, f*****g idiots. He fetched the husband so he can learn and hear what he has to say, not have him stand by and watch his woman giving a blowjob. Read the texts before it and you'll understand how the conversation started. It has nothing to do with sex.

We agree that Christ was referring to spiritual enlightenment in the passages describing his interaction with the woman of Samaria at the well. He was talking about spiritual enlightenment as symbolized by the “living water,” or semen. At the Last Supper, when Christ broke bread with his disciples, he said, “Take, eat; this is my body,” and he poured wine for them and said, “This is my blood.” (1 Cor 12: 23-30) This is the symbolic ritual that we reenact when we partake in the Holy Communion. Obviously, Jesus wasn’t suggesting that his disciples cannibalize him. And in this case, he wasn’t suggesting that the woman give him a blowjob (that’s not what we were suggesting to begin with; we said he was going to have her give her husband a blowjob).

When a woman performs oral sex on her partner, she is symbolically enacting drinking the living water of Christ. It’s a spiritually symbolic act. Christ said, ”If any man thirst, let him come unto me, and drink. 38 He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.” (John 7:37-38) Of course, Jesus is talking metaphorically about living water in this case; if a man literally drank the living water of Christ, that would make him gay. But by accepting Jesus as his savior, a man then metaphorically partakes in the living water of Christ and then has his own source of living water that flows from his belly (we think they probably meant loins, but “belly” is close enough). It could be argued that women also have this source of living water – their vaginal juices. So every time a woman practices oral sex on a man, or vice versa, they are symbolically enacting drinking the living water of Christ.

There’s no reason spiritual enlightenment and sexual expression have to be mutually exclusive. In fact, they are both so much more powerful when you put them together. We’re sorry this issue has caused you to become so upset to the point of using obscene language. We will be praying for you to find peace.


I've never read in my Bible where adultery is okay with a spouse's permission. This is disgusting. I would like to see you back up God permitting this with scripture. My Bible talks about relations between a man and man AND woman and woman being WRONG, and that there is unity between ONE man AND ONE wife.

The Bible is clear when it tells us “Do not commit adultery.” However, what is at issue here is the definition of adultery. In Biblical times, wives were considered the property of their husbands, and the crime (or sin) of adultery was basically defined by one man violating another man’s property rights by using (having sex with) that man’s property (his wife). The wife was also often considered culpable, because in having sex with another man, she was defying her husband. As we see in Numbers 5:12-14, a woman could be tried for adultery without even committing the act, simply if her husband became jealous because he suspected her of cheating on him.

This is why Old Testament kings could have hundreds of wives and concubines without being “adulterers” – although they were married, and had sex with many women, they weren’t committing adultery because none of those women were married to other men. On the other hand, if one of King David’s hundreds of wives, for example, had a fling with a stable hand, they could have both been put to death.

In these more enlightened times, we no longer consider wives to be property, so this definition of adultery is obsolete. Although the male is still considered the leader within the marriage and the family, the husband and wife are more or less equal partners. They must respect each other, and anything that undermines this respect and trust undermines the marriage. However, if they are open and honest about their relationships with others, and if there is no jealousy or distrust created between them, then there is no cause for blame or guilt.


We have a close friend next door who has been widowed for a number of years and doesn't wish to remarry. Yet, at 61, we can see that physically she is lonely and longing for lost intimacy. Could we invite her into our bed? We are all the same age and so reproduction isn't an issue.

This is a perfect example of a couple being called to share the divine love of their relationship with another in the spirit of Christian charity. This situation would seem to fit all of the criteria that we outlined for a Christian threesome. Since your friend is widowed, adultery is not a problem from that perspective. If your wife is open to this arrangement, there is no reason for you not to open up your bed, and your hearts to this woman, sharing your love for each other and for the Lord.


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